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Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Real Advice on Love and Marriage

A friend recently posted the following video on FB and it made me smile.  It is a couple's REAL advice on love and making a marriage work.

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Before getting married almost 15 years ago, we (or at least I) had visions of a life filled with daily romantic gestures, long walks hand-in-hand, intimate conversations about life, family and our future togehter.  It didn't take long for reality set in, with two kids added to the mix, to make us realize that being in love and making a marriage work is just that - a whole lot of hard work. 

It's working hard to pay the mortgage and bills, it's getting up early to get the kids ready for school, make lunches, walk the dog and sleeping late so you could get some chores in and prepare for another day.  There is the fun as well - this cannot be forgotten - but there is work and compromise that need to be made in order to fit this in. 

Just like this couple who have been together for 72 years - we believe that to make a marriage is being (sometimes painfully) honest, accepting each other just as you are, being able to laugh, forgive, learn from mistakes and love each other wholeheartedly. 

Thank you Selma & Kenny for giving the world REAL advice.

Sincerely,

Sherry (a "REAL" married woman)



Friday, April 20, 2012

See Oprah live...check













On Monday April 16, 2012, I attended the biggest live taping of  Oprah's Lifeclass in Toronto, ON.  I have a list of "Things to do before I die" and going to an Oprah show is one of the top things on my list.  And now...check...I've done it.



Here's how the day played out:
  • 5:02am - I'm up, can't sleep.  I'm excited and think that I have to also get my son to school for band practice at 6:50am, so need extra time to get ready and prep lunches etc.
  • 6:30am - I find out my son does not need to go to school early and I curse the fact that I could have gotten another hour of sleep, so I am camera-ready.  See ever since I got my Oprah ticket, I had visions of her seeing me amongst the crowd and pulling me up on stage to spill out my life story...so being camera-ready was a must.
  • 8:00am - I'm on the road heading downtown.  Need to go to a meeting a 10am first before I can head over to the O venue.
  • 10:00am - Meeting.  Good people make me smile. 
  • 11:30am - Stop into a Starbucks for a green tea and to kill some time, because I think to myself "Gee, I'm here too early.  Doors only begin to open at 3:15pm so I'll wait an hour before I line up."  I find out later, I'm am so wrong.  My friend who is at the morning O taping is texting me the details.
  • 12:00noon - I'm at the Metro Convention Centre and I don't see a big line up anywhere.  I go inside the building and ask a lady if she was there for the O-show and she said she just finished writing an exam.  I think "how can anyone concentrate on anything else, especially write an exam on the day O makes her big appearance in TO?!"
  • 12:30pm - I find the line and my feet already hurt.  I usually where flats, but instead I'm wearing heels because I need to be...yes, we went over this...camera-ready.  I eat an apple.
12:45pm - I'm in line on my own and quite content feeling the energy from the mostly women in line and hearing everyone's excitement.  Met two amazing women with a beautiful friendship in line that made the 3+ hours waiting in line fly by.  Shout-out to Y&CD. Thanks for welcoming me in.  Meanwhile, my friend at the show sees Oprah sitting right in front of her.  I text her back "TOUCH HER."

  • 4:00pm - finally they are letting use into the venue.  Elbows out, in position to run for seat.  At this point, all senior citizens, disabled and children big and small are all the same to me - competition - watch out.  I know that doesn't sound very enlightened nor loving but there are moments where that goes out the window. 
  • 4:15pm - made it in alive, but good seats already taken.  Think "Event organizers/MTCC why are there no ushers to seat people in areas they purchased tickets for?" then let it go...I'm about to see Oprah!!!  The timing of everything becomes a blur from here.

  • 4:30pm - 8:30pm
    • Dragon's Den guy speaks about something.
    • Jessica Holmes - Hilarious! especially Celine bit.
    • Deepak Chopra - I'm taking notes and trying really hard to concentrate and somehow feel like I need a PhD to get through this one.  Memorable quote:  "Everything we call reality is an expression of ourself."
    • Iyanla Vanzant - thanks for starting at the back and dancing up front - gave me a chance to brave the long lines in the ladies room and when I was done, she was still making her way to the stage.  Memorable quotes:  "Having a vision will pull you forward." and "When you follow the vision, there will be provision." 
    • Tony Robbins - first let me just say...I love him and didn't think I would because his infomercials were so annoying.  But now, I love him.  Memorable quote:  "Motion creates Emotion."  I was electrified at the end of the session.
    • Bishop T.D. Jakes - the master of the metaphor.  Loved him too and found myself affirming outloud while writing my notes.  Memorable quotes:  "I am pregnant with potential and possibilities."  "There is something inside you that wants to live."  "Pain is a sign that the baby is coming and where there's pain even though it gets worse, remember to... "Push!"
  • 8:30pm  - Harpo Execs, Sheri Salata & Eric Logan (?) gave us a sneak peak of the upcoming OWN show line-up and then the live taping of Oprah's Lifeclass begins...
  • 9:00pm - After a brief introduction, there she is...Oprah in emerald green.  Now although I'm sitting so far back and from the stage she's the size of my thumb, the energy in the room is amazing.  Almost 9,000 mostly middle-aged women and a sprinkling of men on their feet, cheering and clapping when the big "O" made her entrance.  Some even made their own signs to hold up.  It was so much fun just letting go and living in the moment.
     
  • This lifeclass was about "The Power of Forgiveness" and she started the show with a personal story and then proceeded to interview the spiritual leaders:  Deepak Chopra, Iyanla Vanzant, Tony Robbins and Bishop T.D. Jakes.  Below are quotes from each of the speakers about forgiveness:
    • Oprah - "Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different."
    • Iyanla Vanzant - "Untill you learn to heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed.  You can bandage it with food, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex etc, but it will stain your life and you will still be bleeding."
    • Deepak Chopra - "Holding onto resentment is like holding your breath - you suffocate."
    • Tony Robbins - "Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."
    • Bishop T.D. Jakes - "Unforgiveness unchecked becomes a cancer in your soul and  it spreads."
  • 10:00 - 10:30pm - the show ends and we all begin to file out of the venue.  I give my new friends a hug goodbye, bump into some old friends and then head off to my car - Satisfied, overjoyed and truly grateful.  Note to self... "Carry this feeling with me everyday."

A Note about Vision Boards:
I made my first vision board at a women's course last year and became a believer in this process, so this new year, a group of friends and I got together to do our vision boards for the year and at the very centre of mine was a picture of Oprah (see pic below).  At this point there was no talk of Oprah doing a tour let alone visit Toronto, but I still believed that I would see her live, a now, a few months later, I have.  If you haven't made one before, I recommend you do because in Iyanla's words "Having a vision will pull you forward."










Tuesday, April 10, 2012

The Hugh Family Values

This weekend, we had a family discussion (these are so rare) and talked about family values - what they are, why they're important and listed what we felt were our family values.  It took some time to all agree since my daughter wanted to add "playing and having fun" and my son wanted to add "eating hamburgers" but after some discussion, here's what we came up with:

The Hugh Family Values

  • Communication
  • Respect
  • Honesty
  • Integrity
  • Kindness
  • Hard Work
  • Belonging
  • Responsibility
  • Healthy Living
  • Perseverance
  • LUFF - this is our family word for love
It was a great conversation and even though my husband and son proceeded to play video games afterwards and my daughter was back on her iPod, I believe they all secretly enjoyed that we took the time to do this.

Thursday, February 16, 2012

LOVE this website

I LOVE this website:  www.pinterest.com


The Mission of this site is "to connect everyone in the world through the 'things' they find interesting. We think that a favorite book, toy, or recipe can reveal a common link between two people. With millions of new pins added every week, Pinterest is connecting people all over the world based on shared tastes and interests."


Okay - I know this website has been around for a while and my friends at work told me about it some time ago, but I never really got the chance to really look at it.  I did today and I can't even begin to explain how this website makes me feel - but I'll try...
  • Excited
  • Inspired
  • Love, Love, LOVE
  • Happy
  • Eager to try
  • Giggly (is that a word? and if not, substitute it with the work Giddy)
  • Joyful
  • Amazed and in Awe of how amazing people are
  • that simple, everyday things are special
  • Grateful - to my friends for telling me about this site and,
  • Thankful - for those freely and creatively sharing their beautiful and wonderful ideas with everyone
Hope you love it as much as I do.

Sherry

Friday, February 10, 2012

Crafts bring joy

Every once in a while, I have this desperate desire to do a craft.  It usually has something to do with putting together pictures and words to create a story or personal message and when I'm done, I feel joy, exhilaration and peace.  Somehow, I need to incorporate crafts into my daily life, but for now, I'm inspired by others who have. 

I came upon this blog when I was googling the title of this post.  Hope you enjoy it as much as I do.
http://blog.familybringsjoy.com/

Crafts bring joy - try it sometime.

joy.lo.la

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

My Joys

Within the last month, both my kids celebrated birthdays.  One is now 14 and the other just turned 10.  How has time flown by so quickly?  I can still remember the day I had them both so clearly.  The feelings of wonderment and joy when I saw them for the first time.  The celebration of every skill gained, milestone reached, success achieved and lesson learned.

Today, I wish My Joys - enough joy.love.laughter to last a lifetime and beyond. 

Luff.


Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Loving Love

I'm known for it - I love Love.  Recently, I learned that I'm not alone and that that Nelson Mandela was also known for his love of love.  I'm in good company and realize that there are probably thousands for peopl out there who feel the same.

There's nothing more inspiring then to see two people fall in love or a child's love for their parent and vice versa.  There's the love grandparents have for their grandkids, or people have for their pets.  People loving what they do, and those loving them for it.  It's energy that's uplifts me and inspires me to remember those I love and reminds me to both show and tell them that everyday.

For this holiday season and for the upcoming new year, my wish for you is that you are loved, share love and begin to love love.

joy.lo.la always,
Sherry

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

2nd Class Tonight...

...and I'm looking forward to it.  Topic:  How to find your life's purpose?  I've been looking for some time now and hope this class gives me some tips.  I'll share my findings soon.

Friday, November 18, 2011

Class Notes - Facing Life's Challenges with Love

Amazing.  Speechless.  Life-changing.

The class, led by Jane Durst-Pulkys, featured an amazing woman (and Jane's best friend), Teresa Caran.  Teresa shared her life story with the class - a true-life drama, filled with stories of neglect, abuse, sickness, loss, damage and abandonment.  And despite everything Teresa went through, she triumphed, learned a life lesson in each crisis and became a better version of herself afterwards. Teresa's solution to it all - Love. Here are the 5 lessons she shared:

1.  Trust yourself.  Listen to your own instinct.
2.  Never, NEVER Give up.
3.  Today, you are the Best you can be.
4.  Surround yourself with good people.
5.  Let Love flow from you - share the love.

Wishing you all joy.lo.la...
Sherry

P.S.  After a major boating accident and suffering a severe concussion, Teresa, who could no longer work focused her attention on giving to others.  Her choice was not to be a victim, but to take control of her life and love others.  The result was a campaign called "Wrap Yourself in Kindness" benefiting orphaned girls in India.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

New course

Facing Life's Challenges with Love.  My first class is tonight and I'm attending with 3 other friends.  I'm looking forward to it as I am realizing how much work it takes to live in the now.  I'll let you know how it goes.

Friday, November 11, 2011

We remember...

...those who put their lives on the line in order to ensure that others live a better one.  Thank you.

Monday, November 7, 2011

Fritz & Hope

My husband and I just arrived from Punta Cana yesterday where we met a man named "Fritz."  A Haitian, who moved to NYC in 1975 and then to the Dominican Republic 10 years ago (2001), is the owner of a store along the beach front.    I was caught off guard with how good his English was after almost a week of hearing Spanish and various European tongue. Fritz invited us to have a look in his store, what he called his 'paradise' and looking out at the endless Mar Sea in all it's clear blue glory, one could not disagree.  After he showed us around his store, he told us a story that a man from England shared with him - the story of Pandora's Box.  I've always heard these words used and believe there is a jewellery line named after it as well, but hearing the story stuck with both my husband and as we left, we were happy and felt fortunate to have met the man named Fritz.  And I am left with HOPE that we will meet again.



In case you don't know the story, here it is:

PANDORA'S BOX
PANDORA AND THE GREAT BOX
Long, long ago, when this old world was in its infancy, there was a child named Epimetheus
who never had either father or mother. In order that he might not be lonely, another child,
fatherless and motherless like himself, was sent from a far country to be his playfellow. Her name was Pandora.
The first thing that Pandora saw when she entered the cottage where Epimetheus dwelt was a great box. And almost the first question which she put to him, after crossing the threshold, was
this:
"Epimetheus, what have you in that box?"
"My dear little Pandora," answered Epimetheus, "that is a secret, and you must be kind
enough not to ask any questions about it. The box was left here to be kept safely, and I do not myself know what it contains." 
"But who gave it to you?" asked Pandora." And where' did it come from?" 
"That is a secret, too," replied Epimetheus.
"How provoking!" exclaimed Pandora, pouting her lip. "I wish the great ugly box were out of the way!"
"0 come, don't think of it any more,!' cried Epimetheus. "Let us run out of doors, and play
with the other children."
It is thousands of years since Epimetheus and Pandora were alive. Then, everybody was a
child. Children needed no fathers and mothers to take care of them; because there was no danger or trouble of any kind, and there were no clothes to be mended, and there were always plenty of things to eat and to drink.
Whenever a child wanted his dinner, he found it growing on a tree; and if he looked at the tree in the morning, he could see the blossom of that night's supper; or at eventide he saw the tender bud of tomorrow's breakfast. It was a very pleasant life indeed. No labor to be done, no lessons to be studied; nothing but sports and dances and sweet voices of children talking or singing.
What was most wonderful of all, the children never quarreled among themselves; neither had they any crying fits; nor, since time first began, had a single one of them ever gone into a corner and sulked. Oh, what a good time was that to be alive in! The truth is, those ugly little winged monsters called Troubles, which are now almost as numerous as mosquitoes, had never yet been seen on the earth. Perhaps the very greatest uneasiness which a child had ever felt was Pandora's vexation at not being able to discover the secret of the mysterious box.
"Whence can the box have come?" Pandora continually kept saying to herself and to
Epimetheus. "And what on earth can be inside of it?"
"Always talking about this box!" said Epimetheus at last, for he had grown tired of the
subject. "I wish, dear Pandora, you would try to talk of something else. Come, let us go and
gather some ripe figs, and eat them under the trees for our supper. And I know a vine that has the sweetest and juiciest grapes you ever tasted."
"Always talking about grapes and figs !" cried Pandora, pettishly.
"Well, then," said Epimetheus, who was a very good-tempered child, "let us run out and have a merry time with our playmates.
I am tired of merry times, and don't care if I never have any more!" answered pettish little
Pandora. "And, besides, I never do have any. This ugly box! I am so taken up with thinking about it all the time. I insist upon your telling me what is inside of it."
"As I have already said fifty times over, I do not know!" replied Epimetheus, getting a little vexed himself. "How, then, can I tell you what is inside?"
"You might open it," said Pandora, "and then we could see for ourselves."
"Pandora, what are you thinking of?" exclaimed Epimetheus.
His face showed so much horror at the idea of looking into a box which had been given to
him on his promise never to open it, that Pandora thought it best not to suggest it any more. Still, she could not help thinking and talking about the box.
"At least," said she, "you can tell me how it came here." "It was left at the door," replied
Epimetheus, "just before you came, by a person who looked very smiling and who could hardly keep from laughing as he put it down. He was dressed in an odd kind of cloak, and had on a cap that seemed to be made partly of feathers, so that it looked almost as if it had wings."
"What sort of staff had he?" asked Pandora.
"Oh, the most curious staff you ever saw!" cried Epimetheus" It was like two serpents
twisting around a stick and was carved so naturally that I at first thought the serpents were
alive."
"I know him," said Pandora thoughtfully. "Nobody else. has such a staff. It was Quicksilver, and he brought me here as well as the box. No doubt he intended it for me; and most probably it contains pretty dresses for me to wear, or something very nice for us both to eat!"
"Perhaps so,' answered Epimetheus, turning away. "But until Quicksilver comes back and
tells us so, we have neither of us any right to lift the lid of the box."
"What a dull boy he is!" muttered Pandora, as Epimetheus left the cottage.
THE KNOT OF GOLDEN CORD
For the first time since her arrival, Epimetheus had gone out without asking Pandora to
accompany him. He went to gather figs and grapes for himself, or to seek whatever amusement he could find with other children. He was tired to death of hearing about the box, and heartily wished that Quicksilver had left it at some other child's door where Pandora would never have set eyes on it. 
How she did babble about this one thing! The box, the box, and nothing but the box! It was
really hard that poor Epimetheus should have a box in his ears from morning till night; especially as the little people of the earth in those happy days knew not how to deal with troubles. Thus a small-trouble made as much disturbance then as a far bigger one would in our own time.
After Epimetheus was gone, Pandora stood gazing at the box. She had called it ugly over a
hundred times; but in spite of all that she had said against it, it was a very handsome article of furniture. It was made of a beautiful kind of wood with dark and rich veins spreading over its
surface, which was so highly polished that little Pandora could see herself in it. The edges and corners of the box were carved with most wonderful skill. Around the edges there were figures of graceful men and women, and the prettiest children ever seen. But here and there, Pandora once or twice thought that she saw a face not so lovely, or something or other which stole the beauty out of all the rest. Nevertheless, on looking more closely and touching the spot with her finger, she could discover nothing of the kind. Some face that was really beautiful had been made to look ugly by her catching a sideways glimpse at it.
The most beautiful face of all was carved in the center of the lid. There was nothing else
except the dark, smooth richness of the polished wood, and this one face in the center with a garland of flowers about its brow. Pandora had looked at this face a great many times and
imagined that the mouth could smile if it liked, or be grave when it chose, the same as any living mouth. The features, indeed, all wore a very lively and rather mischievous expression.
Had this mouth spoken, it would probably have said something like this:
"Do not be afraid, Pandora! What harm can there be in opening the box? Never mind that
poor, simple Epimetheus! You are wiser than he, and have ten times as much spirit. Open the box, and see if you do not find Something! very pretty !"
The box, I had almost forgotten to say, was fastened not by a lock but by a very fine knot of gold cord. There appeared to be no end to this knot, and no beginning. Never was a knot so
cunningly twisted with so many ins and outs. And yet, by the very difficulty that there was in it, Pandora was there tempted to examine the knot, and just see how it was made. Two or three times already she had stooped over the box and taken the knot between her thumb and forefinger, but without trying to undo it.
"I really believe," said she to herself, "that I begin to see how it was done. Nay, perhaps I
could tie it up again after undoing it. Even Epimetheus would not blame me for that. I need not open the box, and should not, of course, without that foolish boy's consent, even if the knot were untied."
It might have been better for Pandora if she had had a little work to do so as not to be so
constantly thinking of this one subject. But children led so easy a life before any Troubles came into the world that they had a great deal too much leisure. They could not be forever playing at hide-and-seek among the flower-shrubs, or at blind-man's buff with garlands over their eyes, or at whatever other games had been found out while Mother Earth was in her babyhood. When life is all sport, toil is the real play. There was nothing to do. A little sweeping and dusting about the cottage, I suppose, and the gathering of fresh flowers and arranging them in vases and poor little Pandora's day's work was over. And then, for the rest of the day, there was always the box!
After all, I am not quite sure that the fascinating box was not a blessing to Pandora in its way It supplied her with so many ideas to think of, and to talk about, whenever she had anybody who would listen to her! When she was in good humor, she could admire the bright polish of its sides and the rich border of beautiful faces that ran all around it. Or, if she happened to be ill-tempered, she could give it an angry push, or kick it with her naughty little foot. And many a kick did the mischievous box receive, you may be sure! But certain it is if it had not been for the box, little Pandora would not have known half so well how to spend her time as she now did.
GUESSING WHAT WAS IN THE BOX
For it was really an endless employment to guess what was inside. What could it be, indeed? Just imagine, my little hearers, how busy your wits would be if there were a great box in the
house, which you might suppose contained something new and pretty for your Christmas or New Year's gifts. Do you think that you should be less curious than Pandora? If you were left alone with the box, might you not feel a little tempted to lift the lid? But you would not do it. Oh, fie! 
No, no! Only, if you thought there were toys in it, it would be so very hard to let slip an
opportunity of taking just one peep!
I know not whether Pandora expected any toys; for none had yet begun to be made, probably, in those days, when the world itself was one great plaything for the children that dwelt upon it.
But Pandora was certain that there was something very beautiful and valuable in the box, and therefore she felt just as anxious to take a peep as any little girl would have felt.
On this particular day, however, her curiosity grew so much greater than it usually was that at last she approached the box. She was more than half determined to open it, if she could. Ah,
naughty Pandora!
First, however, she tried to lift it. It was heavy; much too heavy for the slender strength of a child like Pandora. She raised one end of the box a few inches from the floor, and let it fall again with a loud thump. A moment afterwards she almost thought that she heard something stir inside the box.
She listened as closely as possible. There did seem to be a kind of stifled murmur within! Or was it merely the singing in Pandora's ears? Or could it be the beating of her heart? The child
could not be sure herself whether she had heard anything or not. But, at all events, her curiosity was stronger than ever.
Her eyes fell upon the, knot of gold cord !
"It must have been a clever person who tied this knot," . said Pandora to herself. "But I think I could untie 'it, nevertheless. I believe I will at least try to find the two ends of the cord."
So she took the golden knot in her fingers and looked into it as sharply as she could. Almost without quite knowing what she was about, she was soon busily trying to undo it. Meanwhile, the bright sunshine came through the open window; as did also the merry voices of the children, playing at a distance, and perhaps the voice of Epimetheus among them.
Pandora stopped to listen. What a beautiful day it was! Would it not be wiser if she were to
let the troublesome knot alone and think no more about the box, but run and join her little
playfellows and be happy?
All this time, however, her fingers were busy with the knot; and happening to glance at the
face on the lid of the enchanted box, she seemed to see it slyly grinning at her.
"That face looks very mischievous," thought Pandora. "I wonder whether it smiles because I am doing wrong! I have a great notion to run away!"
But just then, by the merest accident, she gave the knot a kind of twist the gold cord
untwined itself as if by magic, and left the box without a fastening.
"This is the strangest thing I ever knew!" said Pandora.. "What will Epimetheus say? And
how can I possibly tie it up again?"
She made one or two attempts to tie the knot, but soon found it quite beyond her skill. It had untied itself so suddenly that she could not in the least remember how the strings had been
doubled into one another; and when she tried to recollect the shape and appearance of the knot, it seemed to have gone entirely out of her mind. Nothing was to be done, therefore, but to let the box remain as it was until Epimetheus should come in.
"But," said Pandora, "when he finds the knot untied, he will know that I have done it. How
shall I make him believe that I have not looked into the box?"
And then the thought came into her naughty little heart, that since she would be suspected of having looked into the box, she might just as well do so at once. The enchanted face on the lid of the box looked at her bewitchingly, and she seemed to hear, more distinctly than before, the murmur of small voices within. She could not tell whether it was fancy or not; but there was quite a little tumult of whispers in her ear--or else it was her curiosity that whispered: "Let us out dear Pandora--pray let us out! We will be such nice, pretty playfellows for you! Only let us out.
"What can it be?" thought Pandora. "Is there something alive in the box? Well!--yes!--I will take just one peep! Only one peep, and then the lid shall be shut down as safely as ever! There cannot possibly be any harm in just one little peep !"'
HOW TROUBLES CAME INTO THE WORLD
But it is now time for us to see what Epimetheus was doing. This was the first time since his
playmate had come that he had tried to enjoy any pleasure in which she did not take part. But nothing went right, nor was he nearly so happy as on other days. He could not find a sweet grape or a ripe fig; or, if ripe at all, they were overripe, and so sweet as to be distasteful. There was no gladness in his heart; he grew so uneasy and discontented that the other children could not imagine what was the matter with him. Neither did he himself know what ailed him, any better than they did.
For at the time we are speaking of, it was everybody's nature and habit to be happy. The
world had not yet learned to be unhappy. Not a single soul or body, since these children were first sent to enjoy themselves on the beautiful earth, had ever been sick or out-of-sorts.
At length, discovering that somehow or other he put a stop to all the play, Epimetheus
thought it best to go back to Pandora. But, with a hope of giving her pleasure, he gathered some flowers and made them into a wreath which he meant to put upon her head. The flowers were very lovely --roses and lilies and orange-blossoms, and a great many more, which left a trail of fragrance behind as Epimetheus carried them along; and the wreath was put together with as much skill as could be expected of a boy.
And here I must mention that a great black cloud had been gathering in the sky for some time past, although it had not yet overspread the sun. But, just as Epimetheus reached the cottage-door this cloud began to cut off the sunshine, and thus to make a sudden darkness.
He entered softly; for he meant, if possible, to steal behind Pandora and fling a wreath of
flowers over her head before she knew that he was there. But, as it happened, there was no need of his treading so very lightly. He might have trod as heavily as he pleased, as heavily as a grown man--as heavily as an elephant--without Pandora's hearing his footsteps. She was too interested in what she was doing. At the very moment of his entering the cottage, the naughty child had put her hand to the lid, and was on the point of opening the mysterious box, when Epimetheus saw her.
But Epimetheus himself, although he said very little about it, had his own share of curiosity
to know what was inside. Seeing that Pandora intended to find out the secret, he determined that his playfellow should not be the only wise person in the cottage. And if there were anything pretty or valuable in the box, he meant to take half of it to himself.
As Pandora raised the lid, the cottage grew very dark; for the black cloud had now swept
quite over the sun and seemed to have buried it alive. There had, for a little while past, been a low growling and muttering which all at once broke into a heavy peal of thunder. But Pandora,
unmindful of all this, lifted the lid nearly upright and looked inside. It seemed as if a sudden
swarm of winged creatures brushed past her, taking flight out of the box,. while at the same
instant she heard Epimetheus calling as if in pain.
"Oh, I am stung!' he cried. I am stung! Naughty Pandora! why have you opened this wicked box?"
Pandora let fall the lid, and, starting up, looked about her to see what had happened to
Epimetheus. The thundercloud had so darkened the room that she could not very clearly see what was in it. But she heard a disagreeable buzzing, as if a great many huge flies, or giant mosquitoes, were darting about. And as her eyes grew more accustomed to the imperfect light, she saw a crowd of ugly little shapes, with bats wings, looking very spiteful and armed with terribly long stings in their tails. It was one of these that had stung Epimetheus. Nor was it a great while before Pandora herself began to scream in no less pain than her playfellow. An ugly little monster had settled on her forehead, and would have stung her if Epimetheus had not run and brushed it away.
Now, if you wish to know what these ugly things were which had made their escape out of
the box, I must tell you that they were the whole family of earthly Troubles. There were a great many kinds of Cares; there were more than a hundred fifty Sorrows; there were Diseases, in a vast number of miserable and painful shape; there were more kinds of Naughtiness than it would be of any use for us to talk about.
In short, everything that has since troubled our souls and bodies had been shut up in the
mysterious box and given to Epimetheus and Pandora to be kept safely, in order. that the happy children of the world might never be harmed by them. But by Pandora's lifting the lid of that miserable box, and by the fault of Epimetheus, too, in not preventing her, these Troubles have gained a foothold among us, and do not seem likely to be driven away in a hurry.
For it was impossible, as you will easily guess, that the two children should keep the ugly
swarm in their own little cottage. The first thing that they did was to fling open the doors and
windows in hope of getting rid of them: Sure enough, away flew the winged Troubles all abroad
to torment the small people, everywhere.
And what was very strange, all the flowers and dewy blossoms on earth, not one of which had before faded, now began to droop and shed their leaves, after a day or two. The children who
before seemed always young now day by day grew older and came to be men and women by-and-by.
WHAT HOPE DOES FOR US
Meanwhile the naughty Pandora and hardly less naughty Epimetheus remained in their
cottage. Both of them had been grievously stung, and were in a good deal of pain, which seemed the more unbearable to them because it was the very first pain that had ever been felt since the world began. Besides this, they were in very bad humor, both with themselves and with one another. Epimetheus sat down sullenly in a corner with his back toward Pandora, while Pandora flung herself upon the floor and rested her head on the fatal box. She was sobbing as if her heart would break.
Suddenly there was a gentle tap on the inside of the lid. "What can that be?" cried Pandora,
lifting her head.
But either Epimetheus had not heard the tap, or was too. much upset to notice it. At any rate, he made no answer. "You are very unkind," said Pandora, sobbing again, "not to speak to me!"
Again the tap! It sounded like the tiny knuckles of a fairy's hand, knocking playfully on the
inside of the box.
"Who are you?" asked Pandora. "Who are you, inside of this naughty box?"
A sweet little voice spoke from within: "Only lift the lid, and you shall see."
"No, no," answered Pandora, again beginning to sob, "I have had enough of lifting the lid! 
You are inside of the box, naughty creature, and there you shall stay!"
"Ah," said the sweet little voice again, "you had much better let me out." I am not like those naughty creatures that have stings in their tails. Come, come, my pretty Pandora! I am sure you will let me out I"
And, indeed, there was a kind of cheerful witchery in the tone that made it almost impossible to refuse anything which this little voice asked. Pandora's .heart had grown lighter at every word that came from within the box. Epimetheus, too, though still in the corner, had turned half round and seemed to be in rather better spirits than before.
"My dear Epimetheus," cried Pandora, "have you heard this little voice?"
"Yes, to be sure I have," he answered. "And what of it?" "Shall I lift the lid again?" asked
Pandora.
"Just as you please," said Epimetheus. "You have done so much mischief already that perhaps you may as well do a little more. One other Trouble can make no very great. difference." "You might speak a little more kindly!" murmured Pandora, wiping her eyes.
"Ah, naughty boy!" cried the little voice within the box, in a laughing tone. "He knows he
wants to see me. Come, my dear Pandora, lift up the lid. I am in a great hurry to comfort you."
"Epimetheus," exclaimed Pandora, "no matter what happens, I will open the box!"
"And, as the lid seems very heavy," cried Epimetheus, running across the room, "I will help you!"
So the two children again lifted the lid. Out flew a sunny and smiling little person, and
hovered about the room, throwing a light wherever she went. She flew to Epimetheus and laid the lightest touch of her finger on the spot where the Trouble had stung him, and immediately the pain was gone. Then she kissed Pandora on the forehead, and her hurt was also cured.
After performing these good deeds, the bright stranger fluttered over the children's heads, and looked so sweetly at them that they both began to think it not so very much wrong to have opened the box, since otherwise their cheery guest must have been kept a prisoner among those naughty imps with stings in their tails.
"Pray, who are you, beautiful creature?" inquired Pandora. "I am to be called Hope!"
answered the sunshiny figure. "And because I am such a cheery little body, I was packed into the box to make up for that swarm of ugly Troubles which was to be let loose."
"Your wings are colored like the rainbow!" exclaimed Pandora. "How very beautiful !" 
"And will you stay with us," asked Epimetheus, "for ever and ever?"
"As long as you need me," said hope, with her pleasant smile, "and that will be as long as you live in the world. I promise never to leave you. There may be times now and then when you will think that I have vanished. But again, and again, and again, when perhaps you least dream of my being with you, you shall see the glimmer of my wings on the ceiling of your cottage."

NATHANIEL HAWTHORNE

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

my strategic direction

At work, we are planning our new strategic direction for the next few years which made me think, every person should have a strategic direction of their own because without one, it's hard to know which way to go.  Here's what I came up with - it's a start:
What is my life’s purpose?
To experience and inspire joy, love and laughter. 
My plan:
1.       Continue my blog
2.       Live by example
3.       Be a lifelong learner
4.       Slow down to observe and listen to the signs and whispers that exist
5.       Surround myself with people that nourish my soul – keep me on the path
6.       Love unconditionally
7.       Appreciate what already exists
8.       Tend to my mind, body and spirit
9.       Trust in what is
I believe:
·         I am a leader
·         I have integrity
·         I am resilient
·         I am creative
·         I am intelligent
·         I am strong
·         I am real
·         I can

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

My Childhood Love # 2 - Water

"Water has no taste, no color, no odor; it cannot be defined, art relished while ever mysterious. Not necessary to life, but rather life itself. It fills us with a gratification that exceeds the delight of the senses."  ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPERY (1900-1944), Wind, Sand, and Stars, 1939

As far as I can remember, I've always loved water.  Being in it, near it or even drinking it.
I remember spending days at the neighbourhood wading pool with my brother and cousins.  The water was freezing cold, but it didn't matter, not deep enough to swim in, but we tried anyway.  Hours of laughter and enjoyment.  I remember the annual trips to the swimming spots in Campbellford, Bobcaygeon and Napanee.  To Virginia beach, California and Florida.  Being in the water was all I cared about.  Even now, when we plan for our family trips one of the main prerequisites is that we go to a place where we can swim or we're near the water. 

Water has played a role in some of my best memories, but also my worst.

Recently, my brother reminded me of a time our family was looking at new homes and one of the homes we visited had an outdoor pool.  My brothers and I were ecstatic and we ran out the back door to see it more closely.  My younger brother was only 3 or 4 at the time and thought that he could walk on the cover that lay on top of the water.  In a second, down he went submerged under the water.  My older brother started to panic and ran for my parents.  I don't know what gave me the strength at that time, but at 11 years old, I remained calm, put my arm into the pool, found my brother's hand and pulled him out.  Water could have taken my brothers life - but water also gives us life.

Water teaches me about life and love.  We need to enjoy it, savour it, respect it and appreciate it because in an instant, it could be gone.

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Live Now

Living in the moment is difficult.  I've been working at this for some time now and in moments of turbulence, it always amazes me how life, if you're willing to see them, sends you little reminders.  Yesterday was especially hard for me as I was consumed with worry about meeting work deadlines, paying bills, parenting and the list goes on and on and when I visited FB, the first thing I saw was this quote from the Dalai Lama - a good little reality check on life.  Thank you for the reminder Dalai Lama.


Friday, September 23, 2011

My Childhood Love = Dogs



Since my last posts I've been trying to remember what I loved as a child and the one thing that kept popping up was - Dogs.  Yes, I'm a dog person and from a very young age (probably starting at 6) I've always asked my parents if I could have a dog as a pet.   My love affair with dogs started when I was about six and my cousin got a puppy.  It was a fluffy, tan-coloured pomeranian named Bimbo.  It was love at first sight and I think that Bimbo loved me.  Whenever I went to visit, Bimbo would run directly for me and lay thousands of puppy kisses on me and while the others would stop him for doing this, I welcomed them.  I wanted one of my own so badly and when my cousin decided to breed Bimbo - I was overjoyed because that was my chance - get a mini-Bimbo of my own.  But when the time came and a litter of 5-6 beautiful puppies were ready for a home - my parents said "no."  My heart broke.  Lesson learned:  Just because you love something, doesn't mean you'll get it.

Fast forward to university - I met my husband in 2nd year university and he had a golden retreiver named Junior.  Sweet loveable dog who would followed us around all the time.  I talked all the time about having my own dog and the following Christmas, his gift to me was Rockit a energetic Jack Russell.  As much as I loved him, this breed is not for the inexperienced dog owner (which I was) and Rockit basically ripped apart my parents home.  Chewed tables, chairs, jumping up on everyone that visited, nipping at children, running away several times and I was never able to train him to do his business outside.  Of course this was all my fault, because I didn't invest the time to train him and recognizing that, a couple of years later we gave him up for adoption to my husband's coworker who brought Rockit everywhere - to work and the corner store. They became best friends and Rockit lived a really good life.  Althought I loved him, I knew I couldn't give him what he needed and would be happier with someone who could.  Lesson learned:  It's true what they say - if you love someone, sometimes you have to set them free.


Last December, my family and I decided to adopt a chocolate labrador retriever.  His name is Duncan - which means "Brown Warrior."  This name is appropriate, because it has been quite the battle from day one.  From training, chewing on furniture, to learning new routines, taking on new responsibilities on top of what already needs to get done, arguments on whether or not we could handle him etc.  The list goes on and on.  But this is where I stand - I LOVE Duncan.  He is a beautiful furball of happiness and love.  He's my personal trainer, keeping me active, my running partner and bodyguard at night.  He's stress relief for me, because no matter what kind of day I had, I could sit/play with him and forget all the troubles of the day.  He helps put life into perspective for me.  There he is overjoyed chewing on a sock or catching a ball and it makes me think "what am I complaining about?"  It reminds me to be grateful for the simple things in life.  Lesson learned:  Love is not easy, it takes commitment and hard work, but the rewards you get back are worth it.




Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Childhood Love

I took this picture of my daughter this weekend.  I call it "Soccer Love."  Witnessing her love for this hobby and the exhilaration and sheer happiness it brings her to get out on the field, it made me think about a course I took back in the summer.  The instructor asked us to visualize ourselves walking towards a child in the distance and as we approached each other, the instructor revealed that this young, innocent child we were walking towards was ourselves and to think about what we were like and what we felt as this child.  In addition to this I thought about a book I read called "The Happiness Project" where the author did an experiment and reflected on what she loved as a child and decided to reintroduce those loves back into her life and when doing so, how much happier and fulfilled she felt.  My goal over the next few weeks is to take on a similar experiment and answer the following question: 

What were my childhood loves? 


Join me and share yours too.  I'll post my findings as soon as they're found.